Santa CAN’T be Used as a Behavior Strategy: Three Reasons to Kick Santa out of the Consequence Kingdom
Last year during the holidays I remember reading a Facebook post where a mom was so frustrated with her daughter’s behavior that she was thinking about making her watch the rest of her family open presents while her stocking and her space under the tree were empty. She was to get nothing! I read comment […]
Finding humor, calm, and joy in your fast pace: Three ways to embrace the inebriated squirrels that live in your head
Research shows that 55% of who you are in rooted in heredity and genetics and 45% is how you take what you got and bring it out into the world (personalityinsights.com). It is the age old question of nature versus nurture. It is an almost even balance that creates us as humans. So when I […]
Relationships Can Be Really Hard: Three Blocks to Clear When Strengthening A Relationship
Out of the 2.4 million weddings that happen in the US each year, 827,000 of them end up in divorce (time.com). Why is that? When people first catch the eye of what was once a stranger, their idea of togetherness may look a lot different months or years afterwards. When does it become apparent that […]
When Working with Children, Being Genuine is Key: Three Ways to Fight the Fake
I hang out in schools every day. I hang out in public schools, private schools, child care centers and preschools every…single….day. One of my biggest concerns is the lack of genuine encounter between adults and children. I hear robotic language. I hear slow, labored speech as if to say you just don’t get it. I […]
How to Really Help a Child’s Challenging Behavior: Three Ways to Evolve Behavior with Love
So often when racking our brains for solutions to challenging behaviors adults lean on fear as their best friend to help them through the madness and frustration. In the field of behavior many strategies hurt a child’s emotional wellness, and result in shame, guilt and sadness. Adults scour parenting books and the internet for help. […]
The Marble Jar Strategy: Three reasons you DON’T want to use it
I taught Kindergarten for 10 years prior to becoming a behavior consultant. In those 10 years I definitely started many marble jars, kindness jars, manner jars, jars of all sorts to catch children doing a strategy I wanted to see more of. What I didn’t know was there were better strategies out there, better strategies […]